This is a great article written by a friend of mine, Jayson Gaddis, who teaches men how to be powerful and achieve their highest purpose. I am inspired by his work, his commitment and his authenticity!

I love this article because it’s honest. It explains what men often go through. And because it asks men to call their  fantasies into question and look deeper. We need to do this as women as well.

He suggests that men…

1. Get real. Stop looking to Hollywood and romance novels for examples of relationships. Instead, look around at real people in real life. Who do you want to emulate?
2. Man up. The little kid in you wants an omniscient woman (like the cosmic mother) to fill all of your needs. But remember, you are not a kid, you are a man. Act like one.
3. Ask yourself what kind of love are you chasing? Short term, romantic love? Or long term relative love wherein you and your partner have to do some work to access the perfect love that exists between you.
4. Stop looking to women to make you feel okay. Look to yourself. Get your own business in order, clean up the mess, stand tall and then you will attract a good lover.
5. Find man friends that support you to push your edges. Men who also make other women wrong are not helping you find the right woman. Get other men that are not afraid to call bullshit on you and your games.
6. Own your fear. Remember, most guys have fear come up in relationship and with intimacy. Nothing is wrong with your fear, just take full responsibility for it, rather than pretending like you are not afraid.
7. Own your ambivalence. We want the best of both worlds. Men want to have their cake and eat it too. I want to be in a deep, loving relationship and I want to also be alone, feel freedom, and live on an island in the middle of nowhere.
8. Challenge your own beliefs. Do you really believe that by finding “the one” that it will somehow solve your problems and make everything in your life okay?

Click below to read the whole article. It’s worth it!

http://revolutionaryman.com/2009/08/is-she-the-one/

With love,

Shana