Recently I’ve been looking back on situations that didn’t go well. Whether it was dating, friendship, a job, or even picking a phone porn driving route, there’s something I’ve noticed.
It’s a “sense.”
Call it a gut feeling, an intuition, an actual physical sensation, a voice of doubt… it was a sense that something wouldn’t work out for the best. And while there was no rational reason for that sense, I really felt it to be true.
And then I ignored it.
I told myself I was overly sensitive or too suspicious. I told myself I should trust more and let go of my critical mind.
It all happens so quickly, on a mostly subconscious level, but when I’ve replayed the situations in my mind, in slow motion, that sense is undeniable.
Not listening to that sense, I now see, is me betraying myself. It is turning away from the part of me that is committed to my heart’s deepest truths.
So how did I stop betraying myself?
First I have to be aware of when it happens. Start to pay closer attention and notice when you…
- Have a wiggly feeling in your gut, but continue with an action anyway
- Tell yourself you shouldn’t feel sad, mad, afraid or excited, even though you are
- Feel hurt but sweep it under the rug
- Realize you need something but then pretend it’s not important to you
- Don’t ask for help even though it would make your life easier
These are all ways of betraying yourself, of making your truth less important than cultural norms or someone else’s expectations.
Each of these will get in the way of you having a thriving relationship, a successful career, meaningful friendships and a life that energizes and inspires you.
Your relationship with yourself is the foundation for everything you want in your life. Remember, there is more to making decisions than your logical, rational, thinking mind. Tune in to your body, your heart, your sense of a situation. You’ll be amazed at how connections deepen, situations flow and life starts to have a magical quality.
We’d love to hear from you. Are you newly noticing ways you’ve been betraying yourself? Have you practiced enough to know how to stay aware and stop the betrayal before it happens?
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