“I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.” ― Marilyn Monroe
I love this quote! Marilyn is so unapologetic for being as messy and “imperfect” as she actually is. Yet for most women I talk to, this is the LAST thing they want the world to see about them. Its easy to be scared that if people think you’re selfish, insecure or out of control, that they will run the other direction… especially men. But who doesn’t feel like that sometimes?
Granted, its pretty unpleasant to be around anyone who’s personality is dominated by these characteristics. But pretending like those feelings aren’t a part of you is just… pretending. So give it up girl! There is no woman on this planet who didn’t have a little streak of cra-cra(zy) (including yours truly) and it never stopped the right guy from loving her.
We live in a culture of women apologizing for themselves and feeling scared that no one will love them if they’re not perfect. And yet Marilyn is not offering an apology here; in fact, she is profoundly unapologetic! She’s a playful demand that men show up with her for all of it.
Something powerful happens when we stop apologizing for ourselves. We stop making ourselves wrong and small. We stop hiding and feeling unlovable. And what’s hotter, really? I guarantee most men would choose a woman that shows up with Marilyn’s attitude, even phone porn if she is “hard to handle” at times, over a woman who is “fine” all the time.
If you were to be unapologetic and make a powerful statement like Marilyn’s–only with your particular flavor of “hard to handle”–what would it be? Leave your comments in the blog. We’d love to hear from you!