“Growth demands a temporary surrender of security. It may mean giving up familiar but limiting patterns, safe but unrewarding work, values no longer believed in, and relationships that have lost their meaning.” — John C. Maxwell
“Better to put your heart on the line, risk everything, and walk away with nothing than play it safe. Love is a lot of things, but “safe” isn’t one of them.” ― Mandy Hale
I’m a huge fan of feeling safe and creating safety. Some of the most difficult times in people’s lives have happened in moments that were NOT safe… and that can have a huge impact on our wellbeing and our ability to trust. When I do deep work with people, whether privately or in a group, doing my best to create safety is one of my top priorities. Without it, it can be hard to relax, open up, heal and truly enjoy ourselves.
However, just the opposite is also true. When we’re focused too much on what feels safe and comfortable, we don’t risk, we don’t grow, and we don’t reach outside of our comfort zone to create what we truly want. That’s kind of the definition of growth: to move beyond what is safe and known into the unknown in such a way that we become more whole and free than we were before.
So whether we’re talking about going after your dream job, getting out there to date again, or simply speaking a difficult truth to a friend, it all requires taking a risk. But isn’t it usually worth it? Because what’s the alternative? The alternative is waking up inside of a life that doesn’t fit you, a job that doesn’t challenge you, a relationship that doesn’t meet you, and wondering how the heck you got there.
I want you to tell your truth and feel (mostly) safe doing it. I want you to be your wild, crazy, dorky self and enjoy your life. Ultimately, that’s why Shana and I value going to the depths and unearthing what is authentic, in both ourselves and our clients: because you, free, is a beautiful thing to behold.
So where are you playing it safe in your life? If you weren’t playing it safe in that situation, what would you say or do? Please share it with us here on the blog!
p.s. If you want support to stop playing it safe so you can feel more alive and true to yourself, sign up for a free coaching consultation with us here.