I went all the way to Croatia to coach a client. He is an incredible man who wants real connections with everyone in his life and an honest, vulnerable relationship with a woman.
(I meet incredible men all over the world. Might be time to start match-making! Want his phone #?)
We went to a club one night so he could practice staying present, in his body and connected to women, even if he felt embarrassed, turned on or self-conscious. Read the rest of this entry »
By Shana James
You walk into a meeting at work, talking stops, all heads turn…
you immediately have the attention and respect of your boss and colleagues. You are trusted and people want to hear what you have to say…
Now, imagine this:
You walk up to a woman (a stranger, girlfriend or your wife). She immediately softens. She stops what she’s doing, turns to you and gives you her full attention. In her eyes you see playfulness and trust! You feel her wanting you and there is an instant spark of electricity and turn-on! Read the rest of this entry »
Do you feel gripped by what scares you, in a way that makes&it hard to breathe? Or can you relax into your humanness and&find grace in the midst of your anxiety?
I've recently been facing a fear I've had for more than 20 years. Wow it's had me on my edge and short of breath. The choir of self-consciousness in my mind has been on high-alert. Each voice&wants its opinion to be heard, knowing it will have&less air time once I face this fear!&
I'm not suggesting you run toward all of your fears.&But moving toward your fears deepens and expands the love, pleasure and intimacy you can share with others.&Moving toward your fears allows you to be loved for who you really are. It gives you the freedom to express more of you!&
Is there a difference between being unsatisfiable and insatiable?&When does a man think you're unsatisfiable&and give up trying? When is he blown&away by the beauty of&your insatiability — and will try everything he can to support you in hav
ing what you want?
The lesson I learned, again, on a deeper level:
(Here's to lessons repeating until we really get them)…
Last night my husband and I had a sweet night together. We reconnected, just the two of us, after weeks of exhaustion and caring for our baby. We did candle-light yoga, cuddled and ahem… got it on! It was awesome and rejuvenating for both of us.
A woman, I’ll call her ‘Bewildered in Los Angeles’ since she signed her email that way, asked:
WHY then, since women, equally, DO NOT like to feel like shit in a relationship…WHY are WE the sex that bangs our heads against the wall, wondering what we did wrong, questioning ourselves? men NEVER do this. they are proud as peacocks! they think they are amazing and great! even if they are bald, fat, ugly and have 2 spare tires. i don’t get this.
men can make women sick with jealousy, for years. they can mention other women, and we will eat a hole in ourselves, wondering why we aren’t as good as that other woman that had him. men don’t do that. this ‘sting’ feels SO contrary to a man’s connection to who he really is…he just says, ‘GOODBYE! I’m outta here!’
it pisses me off that we don’t seem to be wired the same way. if we were, we’d bail, too.”
bewildered…in los angeles
by Lissa Rankin, MD
I solicited questions from thousands of women to write my book What’s Up Down
There? Questions You’d Only Ask Your Gynecologist If She Was Your Best Friend,
giving them the chance to ask the anonymous questions they would only ask their
gynecologist if she was their BFF (or after a few glasses of wine).
The real, honest, down-and-dirty questions that came in blew my mind. But one
thing really took me aback – at least 80% of the questions submitted were variations
of “Am I normal?” And 90% of the time, the answer was a resounding “YES! You’re
normal, and you’re beautiful and perfect – just the way you are.”
What do I mean by this? Well, at least half of the questions were about how
vaginas look. It seems we women really worry about why we don’t all look like the
women in Playboy (ahem, can you say airbrushing and cosmetic surgery?).
So grab a cocktail (and a hand mirror!) and check out these tips about what is and
Interview Part 1:
“True Colors TV is one of the first online video networks created by women for women and girls, as a resource to assist them in creating the lives they really want!”
I was talking with a woman last week who was very clear that she didn’t want to leave having a baby to chance. She wanted a plan.
I don’t blame her! Of course she wants a plan. Even from where I sit, in a beautiful relationship with my husband, I still want things to go according to my plan. And they’re not!
I’m in the midst of my own baby-longing recently. I have been attempting to will my body to get pregnant. But it is not going according to plan. Letting go and surrendering to this has become the biggest spiritual practices of my life.