Archive for the ‘Relationships’ Category

I was talking with a woman last week who was very clear that she didn’t want to leave having a baby to chance. She wanted a plan.

I don’t blame her! Of course she wants a plan. Even from where I sit, in a beautiful relationship with my husband, I still want things to go according to my plan. And they’re not!

I’m in the midst of my own baby-longing recently. I have been attempting to will my body to get pregnant. But it is not going according to plan. Letting go and surrendering to this has become the biggest spiritual practices of my life.

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There are so many things we women want the man we create a relationship with to be: powerful, courageous, loving, healthy, honest, emotionally available, fun, conscious…

Of course you want a man to embody these qualities! That’s great! But things start to break down when you expect to attract a man who embodies these qualities, but you are not living your fullest, most inspired life.

I don’t say this to put pressure on you, but the truth is if, for example, you want to attract a man who is healthy, your health regiment needs to be going strong. If you want a man to understand you, ask yourself, do I really understand men?

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Alexis & I often talk about the benefits of spending time with women – which is one of the most important parts of creating a life in which you feel supported, understood, nourished and bright. It is also one of the key foundations to having a successful relationship!

Spending time with women can also make meeting a great man easier and more fun.

But our girlfriends aren’t always around on lunch breaks, during morning commutes, or running to the grocery store. And you never know where the right man for you will show up. Keep reading and watch the video!»

If time is short and you are on the go, scroll down to read my birthday wish for you in 15 seconds!

If you have 2-3 minutes, read my story about how my desires became my reality and you too can be celebrated and supported beyond your wildest dreams!

2-3 minute story:

My birthday was, by far, one of the most amazing celebrations I have ever experienced. And I hardly did anything to make it happen. I did what I love to do, and my friends took care of the rest! Read the rest of this entry »

Spring is finally here – flowers are in bloom, the sun is shining, the days are getting longer, animals are emerging from a long sleep. As the grayness of winter recedes, we feminine creatures are coming back to life.

With the winter months being cold and wet, it’s easy to spend a lot of time inside, hiding from the outside world.

After spending time like this we often become more aware of our natural longing for attention – our desire for our beauty to be seen and appreciated. It’s perfectly natural, especially as women, to want this. Though it can be vulnerable to admit!

When we don’t receive the attention we want from others, it’s easy to feel invisible. Luckily, as spring comes, there are opportunities all around you to be seen and appreciated! Once you start paying attention, you’ll see how enlivened you can feel moment to moment. Read the rest of this entry »

Have you been stuck in the “Friend Zone?” You probably know what I mean, but let me paint a picture:

You have men in your life, some of them very attractive, but they don’t even try to ask you out. They’ll take you out for a beer, and then talk about the gorgeous co-worker they have their eye on. They come to you for dating advice, but not for a date. You’re cute, funny, and down-to-earth, so what’s the deal?

Believe me, I know the feeling. Years ago, I was “The Friend.” I spent lots of time with men – actually, I always had more male friends than girlfriends – but that’s just it: they always remained friends.

Sometimes it seemed like all the cute men in my life were looking over my shoulder, at some woman across the room. I wanted to wave my hands in front of them and say, “Hello-o, I’m here too,” but that would have been mortifying. Read the rest of this entry »

Ah, the beginning of another new year. You probably have a list of resolutions, or at least hopes for 2010. You’ll do some spring-cleaning, finally organize your closet, eat healthier… and maybe, finally, you’ll meet the guy of your dreams.

But this year, instead of just hoping you’ll meet him, let’s do something different: let’s assume you will.

Close your eyes and imagine that you know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that the perfect guy is waiting right around the corner.

I know what you’re thinking. “Okaaay… that’s great, but I don’t actually know I’m going to meet him. So what’s the point of getting my hopes up?” This exercise takes a little bit of creativity, so bear with me. When you live as if you know you will meet him, your life will change for the better. Read the rest of this entry »

I’ve seen so many holiday greetings this year and I honestly started to feel intimidated. I wondered if i could send a holiday greeting that would mean as much to you as the others I’ve read.

I often wonder things like this. Will I do it as well as s/he did? Will I be as attractive, as eloquent, as clear, as powerful, as inspiring…?

And then I think that if I’m not, it may be time for me to give up, or not even pursue something in the first place!

Then I noticed a weight in my chest and a tiredness in my shoulders. And I remembered how many women I’ve heard talk about this fear. Read the rest of this entry »

Have you ever woken up in the middle of the night and started worrying about a relationship or your job and then you can’t get back to sleep? I’ve had that happen a lot!

A while ago, I woke up and started thinking about my husband. At first, they were random, dreamy thoughts. Nothing too specific – just scenes of our time together floating through my mind.

Then, I thought to myself, “hmmm… he hasn’t said ‘I love you,’ in a while.” I thought some more about it. He’s told me I amaze him and that he’s grateful to be with me, but not ‘I love you.’ And, my mind went to that Bad Place:

Maybe it’s a big deal…I should tell him I love him, it goes both ways…I wonder whether he will fall out of love with me some day. Most relationships are destined for failure these days. I’d rather him tell me he doesn’t love me now than years from now. It would hurt a lot less. Read the rest of this entry »